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Lord Jesus, You know the heartache and pain that reside in the hearts of those who have lost a loved one. You also know the anger, wrath, unforgiveness, and all of the other emotions that are associated with the grief of our loss. Lord Jesus, because You are holy, there is no sin that can justify the loss of a loved one, no not revenge, no not anger, no not wrath, no not blasphemy; nor is there any comfort that can completely restore us from grief.
Dear God, thank You for Your power to numb our spirit, soul, mind, and emotions from the devastation of losing a loved one to death by accident, sickness, murder, suicide, or time.
Lord Jesus, You are the Great Physician, we are not worthy of Your grace and mercy, but speak Your word only that our spirit, soul, thoughts, and emotions may be healed. Lord Jesus, look upon our inner man and touch us by Your Spirit as it is written, You took our infirmities, and bare our sicknesses. Lord heal us from the sickness of grief; heal us from the sickness of anger; heal us from the sickness of wrath; heal us from the sickness of unforgiveness, and from the sickness of blasphemy.
Dear God, we stand on Your written word which says that with God all things are possible. Oh Lord, although our heart and mind may feel like it is impossible for us to be healed, we stand on Your word that all things are possible with You, and all things are possible to him who believes in You. Lord, it is also written that there is nothing that is too hard for You. We stand on Your faithful word that it is not hard for You to heal us from the mental and emotional wounds of grief.
Father, Your word says ask, and it shall be given to you, so we ask that You manifest the power and glory of Your majestic word within and around our spirit, soul, body, feelings, thoughts, and emotions, that we may be restored and strengthened to endure the trial of losing a loved one. This we pray in Jesus' name, Amen.
The stages of grief are Unbelief, Anger, Negotiation, Depression, and Acceptance. Only you know what stage of grief you are in regarding your loss.
The Unbelief stage of grief can put tremendous stress and terrible feelings on the mind of the survivor. People in the stage of Unbelief will find it difficult to believe that their loved one is gone despite the truth, fact, evidence and even the sight of their loved one. The truth and fact that they will never see or hear their deceased loved one again is very grievous. Some people in this stage testify that they felt like their heart just sunk or stopped after they heard the news of their loss. The heart-stop experience is very real because there are some people who have experienced that feeling and did not live to talk about it. People in the Unbelief stage need much prayer because this stage can kill or drive someone insane.
Lord Jesus, I pray for those who are in the Unbelief stage of grief. Lord, I put You in remembrance of Your word which says that during Your crucifixion, You were physically and mentally wounded for our transgressions; You were physically and mentally bruised for our iniquities. You were physically chastised and beaten beyond recognition, so we could have peace, and with Your stripes we are healed. Heavenly Father, in Jesus' name, I ask that You manifest the glory of Your healing virtue in the spirit, soul, mind, emotions, thoughts, and feelings of those who are in the Unbelief stage. Those in this stage may wish that their loss was just a nightmare, and will soon end, but time reminds them that the horrible loss is real. Dear God, only You can heal us from this kind of pain, and I trust that those in this stage will find the will to put their faith in You so You can heal their broken hearts, in Jesus' name, Amen.
The next stage of grief is Anger. People in the stage of anger really need prayer because this is the stage where people may become upset with whoever caused the death of their loved one. The survivor may even become upset with the deceased, for example, a father may become upset with his deceased son because the son did not listen to the father's warning before the death took place. A survivor may become angry at himself/herself, for example, a mother may feel bitter toward herself for trusting her boyfriend who later took the life of her teenage child. Survivors could express anger toward innocent people, or anyone who reminds them of the trauma of their loss. God understands the anger within people when they find out that they suffered the loss of a loved one, but the devil doesn't care at all. The devil will provoke any angry person to seek revenge for the loss of their loved one, and if the loved one passed away, then the devil will try to provoke the angered one to accuse or curse God.
Father God, Your word says that You understand our anger, but You also caution us not to sin with it. I pray for those who are very upset because they have lost a loved one. Dear God, I ask that You surround those in the Anger stage with Your ministering angels. Let Your angels minister peace, comfort, and even silence to their heart, mind, and soul, in Jesus' name. Father, I loose Your warring angels to go forth and fight against the evil forces that will try to provoke the surviving family to sin with their anger. In the name of Jesus, I speak peace to the heart and mind of those who are grieving in the Anger stage; I speak patience to their soul in the name of Jesus; I ask You God that You will pour Your love into their mind in the name of Jesus, because only through the power of Your love can they truly endure all things including the anger and bitterness that they may have felt since the beginning of their tragic loss, Amen.
The next stage of grief is the Negotiation stage. This is the stage where people try to get answers from "what if" questions that are in their mind. Survivors in this stage also may seek to negotiate a deal with God (or maybe a deal with the devil) in order to restore the life of their loved one. For example, a father may tell God that he is willing to die in the place of his deceased son. The Negotiation stage of grief can be very dangerous because the survivor may become vulnerable to anything in order to bring back the deceased. The survivor may seek out a psychic, palm reader, or a Ouija board, and in doing such a thing would be like communicating with death rather than God.
Father, in the name of Jesus, I pray for those who are in the Negotiation stage of grief. To those in the Negotiation stage, I say, let not your heart be troubled, and keep your mind on God that He in return will keep you in perfect peace. Go not unto the workers and things of darkness lest they blind you and seek to possess your life. It is written that if you draw near to God, then God will draw near to you, and when God is near you, then all the workers and forces of darkness will scatter. Father, I understand that those in the Negotiation stage of grief do not care about anything except their deceased; therefore, their guards are down, and the enemy would love to take advantage of their weakness, but I stand in the gap for them. I petition Jesus, our Great High Priest, to wash, cover, and purge them with His holy blood, for there is no weapon that is formed against the blood of Jesus that will prosper, and every tongue that shall rise or speak against the blood of Jesus is condemned (especially those demonic tongues that speak evil words to the mind of those in the Negotiation stage). Father, give Your angels charge over those who are in the Negotiation stage of grief that Your angels may minister love, life, and light to them and help them find their way to victory, in Jesus' name, Amen.
The next stage of grief is the Depression stage. This may be the stage where the survivor does not care about anything or anyone. So, with all due respect, if you say the wrong thing to someone in this stage then you might get your feelings hurt. The person in this stage does not care about your feelings and may not hold back against anything that will distract his/her nerves. For example, a grandson may be depressed about losing his ninety-year-old grandmother. A close friend may attempt to console the grandson by saying, “she was ninety years old, and she lived a good life”. The comment might be true in a sense, but the grandson may have had feelings of being with his grandmother for one, two, or maybe ten more years. So, if the grandson looks the close friend in the eyes and say, “why don’t you just shut the h*** up”, then the close friend may feel a bit hurt. Although the grandson may have never displayed such behavior, we must acknowledge that the grandson is in a stage of depression and does not care about anything. If you realize that someone is in the Depression stage, then one of the worst things that you could do is to tell that person that "everything is going to be alright". The reality for someone in depression might be that everything is not going to be alright because no one on earth has the power to bring the deceased back to life. People on the outside may not understand how a deceased loved one may have once regulated the thoughts, feelings, emotions, plans, and goals of the depressed one, and now the mindset of the depressed one is permanently changed. Others may encourage the depressed one to move on, but they fail to realize that people must grieve the death of their loved one at their own pace. In the depression stage, the devil can wreak havoc because the depressed one is in a place where he/she may not care about anything, including his/her own life. The survivor may feel that everything pertaining to life has been sucked out of his/her soul.
Father God, I pray for those who are in the Depression stage of grief. This stage is so tricky because it can cause someone to drown in sorrow or erupt in wrath. It is written that the Lord is near those who have a broken heart (Psalm 34:18). Father God, please surround those in the Depression stage with Your angels. Let Your angel minister the good times and joy that the depressed ones once had with their loved ones. The joy ministered by the angels may quickly turn into sorrow, but it is written in Ecclesiastes 7:3 that sorrow is better than laughter: for by the sadness of the countenance the heart is made better. Father, You know that it is better for the depressed ones to endure their grief in order for their heart to be made better. Father, according to Psalm. 147:3 You promise to heal the broken heart. Father, You know the heart of the depressed ones, You understand their tears; You understand their pain; You understand their sorrow; You understand their anger; You understand their unwillingness to care about anything; You understand their silence, but You also understand that there is a time and a season for all things. It is written that there is a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to get, and a time to lose; a time to love, and a time to hate; a time to break down, and a time to build up. Father, I ask that You help the depressed ones endure their broken-down stage without interference from the dark side, that You may build up their lives at Your appointed season and time, in Jesus’ name, Amen.
The final stage of grief is Acceptance. This is the stage where the survivor acknowledges the reality of the nightmare of losing a loved one. Memories, gravesites, obituary, funeral, anniversaries, pictures, videos, conversations, diplomas, trophies, degrees, etc. will strike the mind to recall the existence of the loved one, then the survivor must deal with the reality of acceptance all over again. The Acceptance stage does not mean that the survivor is healed, but it means that the survivor has come to a place inwardly where he/she has accepted the reality that the loved one is deceased. Unfortunately, there are some homes and mental facilities that house people who have not endured this stage. Imagine a wife who believes that her deceased husband is still alive and calls or texts her daughter for help to find him. That is an example of someone who is stuck in the stage of grief and has not begun to accept the reality of her deceased loved one. The point is that people need prayer when they are dealing with the loss of a loved one. There was a preacher who once instructed the survivors of a deceased loved one to rise and have faith in Jesus. The preacher encouraged the surviving family not to cry but trust God so He could help them deal with the loss of their loved one. Later, things changed after that preacher experienced what those surviving family had gone through. That preacher cried; questioned God and even threw pots and pans around the house. The preacher realized that people must be allowed to grieve the loss of their loved one even if they are strong in faith. When someone endures the stage of Acceptance, then that person will come to a place within his/her heart that life goes on although things will never be the same.
Father God, I thank You for helping those surviving families reach the Acceptance stage of grief. Thank You God for giving Your angels charge over them to keep them in Your ways rather than in the way of darkness. Thank You God for building them with laughter although their heart may still experience bitterness at times. Thank You God for giving them strength to go forth and live for their remaining loved ones, for themselves, and for Your glory. Thank You that every evil weapon that formed against them did not prosper, and that every word that was spoken against them did not prevail. Father, I ask that You give them strength in their inner man to enjoy the life of their remaining loved ones. Let them also cherish the memories of their deceased and be endured with power to overcome future grief that is ignited by anniversaries, birthdays, pictures, videos, gravesites, etc. Father, what the enemy meant for evil in their lives, let it be turned into good for Your glory and for their blessing, in Jesus’ name, Amen.
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